"On another level, it’s also important to be aware of the
circumstances in which the assertion that men are oppressed is made. It’s typically a defensive reaction offered as a kind of balancing ‘counter-suit’ to assertions of women’s oppressed status under patriarchy. In that way, it’s similar to the mythic ‘male bashing’ claim. It’s usually not said as a call to action since the vast majority of men show little interest in actually changing the society that they say oppresses them. Instead, the claim serves as a way to silence women and draw their sympathetic attention away from women and back to men which, in a male-centered patriarchy, is where women’s attention properly belongs."
— Allan Johnson
Hartford College for Women (via lookatthisfuckingoppressor)
"I’m going to tell you what a demon once told me: It is okay to want your own happiness. It’s okay to care about yourself the most. It’s okay to do what’s healthy for YOU. When someone hits you, it’s okay to hit back and then ask them what the hell they expected. It’s okay. You are not obligated to sit there and smile and swallow every bit of shit everyone heaps on you. You are more than furniture, you’re more than window dressing, you’re not their shiny toy. You’re human, and you have the right to say “That was shitty of you”. You have a right to say “Let me feed that back to you; tell me, how does it taste?” You have a right to protest your own mistreatment and set boundaries for respectful interactions. The rest of the world doesn’t realize you have this right, and they will act offended and appalled when you exercise it, but it is yours."
— SonneillonV (via sonneillonv)